Saturday, June 11, 2011

On the Nature of Blogging

I address this post to those who read my blog, whether you comment on a regular basis or choose to remain silent, and I address specifically those readers of mine who also maintain their own blog on the world wide interweb (as my technologically challenged friend calls it).

Let's face it, as in any artistic and creative expression, the written word can be interpretted (or mis-interpretted) by the intended audience.  I am a truthful and open person by nature, I have chosen the medium to share pieces of my life, and I would like to say that the picture I paint is as accurate as I see it, given the fact that no one sees their lives objectively.

I go through phases where I question the usefulness of blogging, as well as the basics:  did I represent the person or event in an accurate and fair manner?  Have I achieved my goal in this particular post?
Did I compromise my sense of fairness and well-being for the sake of sensationalism, the "better story"?
Has the internet become too exposed, and do I have no business airing my private affairs on a public and international forum?

Do I need some professional support system as well, like a social worker or a therapist? Probably, and not simply because of my past, I think everyone could use an objective and kind voice in their lives.

Recent comments to me personally and on the site have raised these issues once again.  I continue to blog because I believe that my experiences can help find common ground for those women who are single mothers by choice, and those who may be considering it, and even parents of young children who have the support of a long-term relationship.

I also continue because of the choice to live in Israel and not close to my family in the States; I want to share the joy of having my daughter, and it gives me some comfort to know that those of you out there on the planet are participating. Raising a child as a single parent is in some ways easier in Israel than in the States or the rest of the known world, but I think that the feelings and frustrations are universal.  However, as the author trying to do some good, as well as vent a bit, I would like to know if I have failed or succeeded in my purpose.

Post a comment, please, post anonymously if you want to chew me out, remembering that I am still a human being, and these days, given the various projects and stressors I am juggling, I have thinner skin than I would like.


SuperRaizy said...

Don't pay too much attention to those who post comments criticizing you. It's your blog, it's meant to represent your voice. If you allow others to make you feel too intimidated to express your thoughts honestly, then there is no point in writing. I am also a single mother (although not really by choice) and I know how hard it can be sometimes. You have nothing to apologize for.

Nicole said...

I don't agree with some of what you say, but would never tell you that (except for now, because you asked...) because i think it is your blog and you should be able to write whatever you like, and if I don't like it, I can always stop reading (I'm still here tho...)

midlifesinglemum said...

I also don't agree with a lot of what you write. On the other hand there are experiences you describe which I totally identify with. I once wrote a comment criticizing something you wrote, and I have written many supporting you. Just accept all opinions I say - it makes for a more interesting read than just a load of "good for you" comments.

Doc said...

I am not asking for or expecting concensus, and I would agree that it is boring if every comment becomes a verbal pat on the back. Any form of creative expression should generate reaction, otherwise it is not doing its job.
My question takes a more broad approach, about the role of the blog and the open-ness of the internet as a more recent Big Brother concept. Are we doing ourselves a favor or a dis-service?

midlifesinglemum said...

In reply to your comment - I find it theraputic to write my blog. It is also a hobby that is both free and mind broadening. It fulfills many of my needs for the moment. I'm not that bothered what other people say as there are enough supporters who enjoy reading me. I do, obviously, self censor a bit. If my usual 'fans' suddenly turned on me it would probably be a heads-up that I had made a mistake. For now it's good.