tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post7231935078337633944..comments2023-10-28T02:50:16.786-07:00Comments on Jewish Single Mom By Choice: Who's the BossDochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05261212450148255826noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-2504931632866345442011-08-18T12:33:11.021-07:002011-08-18T12:33:11.021-07:00I am also a single mum with a bi-lingual daughter ...I am also a single mum with a bi-lingual daughter who speaks English/Hebrew/Gibberish - long speeches of the latter whilst playing pretend. She also watches a lot of TV - Cbeebees on BBC in the morning whilst I get us both ready to leave, and dvds in the evening when we are too tired for anything else. Mealtimes are flexible and relaxed - we often have a 'picnic' in front of the tv. And bedtime is also felxible - when I feel like it. It works for us, shoot me.Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-34059463351544252912011-08-18T10:28:18.846-07:002011-08-18T10:28:18.846-07:00If anything, I think the reason I am more laid bac...If anything, I think the reason I am more laid back as a parent is because I grew up with such strict rules. I most definitely believe that there is a place and a need for boundaries, but I have to find my way to some place in the middle.Dochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261212450148255826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-79586833129862831522011-08-18T10:14:54.850-07:002011-08-18T10:14:54.850-07:00No, I am not perfect. I am a human being and a fi...No, I am not perfect. I am a human being and a first time mother, single or otherwise. What I know is that other people can have more objective opinions, because they are not personally invested. What I know is that not all advice is worthwhile, but that I need to keep an open mind; find the gems within the garbage, so to speak.<br />And what I really know is that my daughter, for all my mistakes now and in the future, is healthy and happy, and that I am giving her love from the deepest and best part of me.Dochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261212450148255826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-45375715159817561062011-08-18T09:52:37.888-07:002011-08-18T09:52:37.888-07:00No No No - you are the best mother in the world fo...No No No - you are the best mother in the world for RR. You know her better than anyone else. Let no-one make you feel guilty or tell you otherwise.Arielahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11552520475103960732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-47301439768669051132011-08-18T07:23:00.583-07:002011-08-18T07:23:00.583-07:00you should not feel that you are a failure as a pa...you should not feel that you are a failure as a parent. RR is thriving and happy. You are allowing these feelings of guilt make you feel that you are a failure. <br /><br />you are not using tv as a babysitter. Using it as a babysitter would mean you are constantly sitting her in front of it. One time does not make it a babysitter. In point #2 you mention not having time to get ready. I would eat with RR formally and then put the tv on for a few minutes to allow yourself to shower and get ready for work. As a single mom you do not have the ability to have someone else watch her. <br />it is not too late to make meals more formal with her. Try to serve her b-fast a little earlier than you have in the past, sit with her and then put the tv on while you shower and dress. Or drop her off at gan a little earlier and get home to shower<br /><br />I would suggest being more firm with RR and not giving into her b/c you do not want to cause a scene. The more you hold off the harder it will be. My son when he was 3 was a messy eater. When I would point this out, my husband would say he would grow out of it so stop fighting him on it. He was a terrible eater with getting fod on himself and basically ate like a 3 year old until he was in 2nd grade. <br /><br />My husband says you should pick the fights/arguments/battles you have with kids. Having major battles about what clothes to wear is not worth it but about walking should be.<br /><br />If you want RR to be really bilingual then you do need to stick to a program of exclusive english at home/hebrew at gan. If you cannot, then you should abandon it.<br /><br />When someone imagines being a parent they say I would never let my kid watch tv, I will be a more relaxed parent than my mother was. I will never do what my parents did. However, when it comes to reality and having a baby to take care of, some of things you thought you would never do, you end up doing. Don't feel guilty at all.koshergourmetmarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18130278915757648096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-56029729265056253612011-08-18T06:27:44.783-07:002011-08-18T06:27:44.783-07:00My daughter is 3.5 and bilingual - I am very stric...My daughter is 3.5 and bilingual - I am very strict about the English at home, Hebrew at kindy rule - so much so that if I slip up, my daughter will remind me that I need to speak English.<br />I remember also wishing her language would develop faster like her uni-lingual friends, but just wait a bit longer and it will be there - my daughter doesn't stop talking in both languages nowNicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13556138998320800390noreply@blogger.com