tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post6061553582253748514..comments2023-10-28T02:50:16.786-07:00Comments on Jewish Single Mom By Choice: Roller Coaster DayDochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05261212450148255826noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-32844932905149174342010-07-04T09:26:00.207-07:002010-07-04T09:26:00.207-07:00I don't know that I have arranged a scientific...I don't know that I have arranged a scientific study on the subject, but I can tell you from my own experience and from my observations within my community that for every ten great women, there is maybe one man who fits the bill. The women I know are much more ready to commit and start a family, they are much more grounded and emotionally available.<br /><br />The older the men get (Israeli and Anglo Saxon) and the more time they stay single, the more they want the "Little Woman" who looks like Claudia Schiffer.Dochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261212450148255826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-55806872493136120332010-07-04T04:37:49.395-07:002010-07-04T04:37:49.395-07:00"...there are so many women - religious or se..."...there are so many women - religious or secular- who have gone this route in the last ten years, due to the appalling lack of quality in the dating and marriage market."<br /><br />That's an interesting comment. Is there a consensus among Israeli women that Israeli men are somehow lacking in quality? Do women just sort of bite the proverbial bullet and marry for the sake of reproduction rather than love and partnership?Marnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08923183426441891474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-28456371292500440922010-07-03T21:06:12.737-07:002010-07-03T21:06:12.737-07:00I would like to say that Israelis flaunt the law m...I would like to say that Israelis flaunt the law more than, for example, Americans, but I don't know that I can; there are bad eggs and hypocrites in every country.<br /><br />What makes this situation most stressful for me is the fact that I have no consistent and reliable support system in Israel. I have no family here really, nor do I have a husband who will watch my back or provide an extra set of hands when I desperately need a break.<br /><br />That being said, I would not want to raise Raphaela in the United States.<br /><br />As far as the Jerusalem/Israeli attitude toward my being a single parent by choice, there are so many women - religious or secular- who have gone this route in the last ten years, due to the appalling lack of quality in the dating and marriage market. I have felt mostly encouragement from people, rather than judgement.<br /><br />Plus the government and the country, which continues to be family oriented, provides certain rights for single parents that do not exist in the States.Dochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261212450148255826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-27832224372320446382010-07-03T15:49:46.539-07:002010-07-03T15:49:46.539-07:00This might be a question you are unable to answer ...This might be a question you are unable to answer but...<br /><br />Do you feel that the stress you deal with day to day are Israel-centric? For instance do you feel that if you were living in the States with your daughter, things might be easier? Obviously the housing situation could happen anywhere at any time, but I would assume that maybe the US has more laws, or at least people who abide by them in regards to landlord/ tenants as well as the renovations and how they affect others.<br /><br />I know Israel offers your daughter things the US can't/won't, but do you ever consider moving back to the US just for the sake of ease?<br /><br />Also, and this is totally different, but how do you feel your 'average Israel' reacts to learning that you are a single mother by choice? Presumably reactions in Jerusalem may differ from those in Tel Aviv. <br /><br />Thanks so much for sharing your life with us and please know that your blog is very refreshing to read. I hope this week is better for you.Marnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08923183426441891474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-79909892765595092612010-07-03T15:48:03.390-07:002010-07-03T15:48:03.390-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Marnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08923183426441891474noreply@blogger.com