tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post5528741832801746985..comments2023-10-28T02:50:16.786-07:00Comments on Jewish Single Mom By Choice: Financial ConcernsDochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05261212450148255826noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-80826415788423426812009-12-18T11:23:56.262-08:002009-12-18T11:23:56.262-08:00You have to be quite strong with friends like that...You have to be quite strong with friends like that and tell them to stop. That's all. That you appreciate their concern and understand they mean it well, but that they are not helping and must stop. If it's clear you mean it, they will.<br /><br />You are always going to have money troubles unless some kind of magic happens. This is in the nature of being a single parent. There isn't any buffer. Most married parents have money troubles too. But you must be very careful not to compete, in terms of what money can buy, with two-income families. Just don't. You can't win that way or make yourself happy. My daughter has already decided that she'll do work that makes lots of money when she grows up; fine. Your daughter will have her own reactions, and frankly, they will be what they will be. In the end it will have more to do with her personality than with your checkbook. <br /><br />Don't worry.Amy Charleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07001791173242631714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-44881627722847301202009-12-17T06:21:57.387-08:002009-12-17T06:21:57.387-08:00You can cut corners and make adjustments, but you ...You can cut corners and make adjustments, but you can never get back the bonding time you're having with Raphaela right now.<br /><br />You shouldn't doubt your own instincts. You're doing it the right way.<br /><br />Besides which, yes, while money's important, if Raphaela's already keeping you up many nights, why would you further erode your personal time that keeps you sane by taking late patients?David Staumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04092344925121412070noreply@blogger.com