tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post4944585762731634523..comments2023-10-28T02:50:16.786-07:00Comments on Jewish Single Mom By Choice: Black EyeDochttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05261212450148255826noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-40811051962097636672011-07-12T03:27:03.565-07:002011-07-12T03:27:03.565-07:00I think I am pretty much going to go the surprise/...I think I am pretty much going to go the surprise/adventure route, and tell her as little as she needs to know, and as close to the event as possible. I don't think -regardless of her abilities in understanding and language - that she will grasp the concepts of time, or details of the surgery.Dochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05261212450148255826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-70770613782264936002011-07-12T01:05:18.533-07:002011-07-12T01:05:18.533-07:00Based on what little I know of almost-2-year-olds,...Based on what little I know of almost-2-year-olds, don't tell her anything until the night before. She doesn't have a great sense of time right now, and will just stress over it for 2 weeks, not understanding what "2 weeks" means, or even what "soon" means in this case.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12012646103361709320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5488433810039574602.post-90934585002964708562011-07-10T06:34:32.821-07:002011-07-10T06:34:32.821-07:00You need to remember what you are doing is not hur...You need to remember what you are doing is not hurting RR (even if she is crying from being stuck by a needle or cries when she wakes up after surgery) but is out of love - it will help her in the long run. If you start tearing up or crying in front of her (even though it is hard) she will get anxious and think it is worse than it is and will forever think of hospitals as a negative thing when in reality they can be positive places where people get better. The most important thing is for you to not to be anxious to RR and let her think anything is amiss. Kids can sense it. You need to reassure her and smile and really hide your anxiety (even though it is difficult). I speak from some experience-my son got his andenoids/tonsils out when he was 4 and my daughter last year went through 5 months of chemo. When I got her disgnosis I cried hysterically and teared up whenever I thought about it (I still do) but when I saw her and told her about the news I made up a cheer that she was going to beat it. I spent numerous days in the hospital with her and at home after chemo watching her in pain, vomiting, nausea and never let on in front of her about my worry that she would not make it through. I saw plenty of parents(unfortunately too many) with children as young as 3-4 months there undergoing treatment and beng brave with their kids. I know you can too. In terms of not being able to eat, give her a big snack the night before and just distract her when she asks to eat perhaps with a new toy/book.koshergourmetmarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18130278915757648096noreply@blogger.com